The importance of self care

June 26, 2018

"Be sure to take care of yourself."  It's a very common phrase easily uttered by friends and family when one is going through a hard time...but MUCH harder to put into practice when you're the one experiencing the difficulty.

After launching the blog yesterday, I posted on Facebook about my plan for self care during my husband's 400-day deployment to Afghanistan that has just begun in order to keep myself sane and ensure that I didn't just work and sleep over the next year.  Here's my list:

1. Start a lifestyle blog (thanks for joining me here!)
2. Start a new fitness regime (I ordered Body Boss)
3. Plan a long vacation for when Herschel gets home next year
4. Take a French class so I can learn how to say more than "Another glass of champagne please" in French (I mean, that's important but I want to be more fluent)
5. Take a painting class (or more than one)
6. Be the best darn Army Wife EVER (my efforts will be featured here on the blog as a lot of the articles I am reading from military spouses mention the words "Ben & Jerry's" WAY too many times, which directly contradicts goal #2)
7. Journal regularly
8. Spend a lot of time with friends and family
9. Unless it's for special occasions or previously-planned trips, I will be abstaining from alcohol in solidarity with Herschel since he is not allowed to partake while he's overseas
10. Get Herschel's cat to like me (as of the date of this post, she has been living in my basement for roughly two months now)

Since posting the list on Facebook, many people have reached out to me sharing their own struggles saying posting my list inspired them to develop their own self care plans.

Why is Self Care Important?

Self care is something that many people - especially women - deem as selfish and extravagant, especially when we are already pressed for time.  However, I have learned over the last few years that it is vital to overall health and happiness.  After quitting my job and starting my own company in 2014 and working around the clock for years to build my business, putting off self care became a bad habit.  Then, when I went through a devastating divorce that dragged on seemingly endlessly, I lost the will and ability to do much of anything, let alone take care of my mental and emotional health.

Here I was professionally talking to women in my industry about self care and dreams and goals, but behind closed doors, I was self-destructing.  So when my new husband and I found out about his impending deployment to Afghanistan, I was determined to be a positive light to others, to be kind to myself, and be proactive about how I would handle this next difficult chapter of my life.

Hence the list above.  I'm super excited to get to work on these things.  If we treated self care with as much importance as our professional jobs - and were as hardworking to ensure its success - I would venture a guess that a lot of peoples' lives would be a lot different, including my own.

So that's what I am going to do.  Make self care my second job.  I'd love to hear from you, dear readers, about your own self care plans.  What's on your list?  Comment below.


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  1. I learned about “Spa Sundays” from my dear friend Leah...spend a little extra pampering time on Sundays...face mask, body scrub, deep conditioner, teeth whitening, etc. Maybe go to an actual spa on a special occasion :). Doesn’t have to be Sunday, could be any day really. Just set aside one day a week to spend time on yourself.

    Excited to read your blog!!!

    1. That is a fantastic idea and a great way to fit in some pampering. Thanks so much for sharing and for reading the blog! :)


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